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Home » Sex Tips » How to Increase Clitoral Stimulation During Sex

How to Increase Clitoral Stimulation During Sex

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The head of a woman’s clitoris, which is only about the size of a pea or smaller, has twice the number of nerve endings as her husband’s penis and is the epicenter for most of her orgasms!

Since her clitoris is located just above her vaginal opening, you’ll need to get a little creative to stimulate it during intercourse.

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  • Sex Positions with Clitoral Stimulation
  • Tips for Manual Stimulation During Sex
  • Tips for Using Sex Toys for Clitoral Stimulation During Sex

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Sex Positions with Clitoral Stimulation

Most sex positions don’t provide much clitoral stimulation. The angle of penetration and position of your bodies have to be just right in order for his penis to rub her clitoris during sex. Here are our best sex positions with clitoral stimulation.

An illustration of the CAT Sex Position & Technique. This picture demonstrates how CAT (Coital Alignment Technique) is a husband-on-top sex position combined with a thrusting technique that produces great clitoral stimulation and helps him last longer during sex.

CAT (Coital Alignment Technique) is a husband-on-top sex position combined with a thrusting technique that produces great clitoral stimulation and helps him last longer during sex.

An illustration of the Cowgirl sex position. This picture demonstrates how Cowgirl is a woman-on-top sex position with great depth control, deep penetration, and clitoral stimulation.

The Cowgirl Sex Position is ideal for clitoral stimulation during sex because it gives the woman all of the control she needs to rub her love button just right for that big O!

An illustration of the Hula Bula sex position. This picture demonstrates how Hula Bula is an easy, man-on-top sex position that has great clitoral stimulation and deep penetration.

The Hula Bula Sex Position uses a technique to stimulate her clitoris with his pubic bone during sex. Men tend to last longer in this position, too!

An illustration of the Super Missionary sex position. This picture demonstrates how Super Missionary is a man-on-top sex position with great clitoral stimulation and deep penetration.

The Super Missionary Sex Position uses a Liberator Jaz Sex Pillow to arch her back and rotate her pelvis forward so that her clitoris is in a better position to be stimulated during sex.

An illustration of the Reverse Grinding the Corn sex position. This picture demonstrates how Reverse Grinding the Corn (reverse coital alignment technique) is a woman-on-top sex position with deep penetration and excellent clitoral stimulation.

The Reverse Grinding the Corn Sex Position is similar to the Cowgirl Position but with more intense stimulation. It can be a little challenging to get the hang of, but it’s well worth the effort!

Check out all of our sex positions that provide clitoral stimulation.

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Sex Positions with Access for Manual Clitoral Stimulation

We have several sex positions that don’t provide clitoral stimulation directly, but they provide access for the wife or her husband to manually stimulate her clitoris with their fingers during sex. A few of our favorite positions with access to manual clitoral stimulation are listed further down.

For the apprehensive wife: If the thought of touching yourself, especially in the presence of your husband, sends embarrassment and shame surging through your body, consider this.

God created you with a clitoris, and its ONLY purpose is to give you back-arching, ugly, face-inducing, scream-generating pleasure. If he only intended you to receive clitoral stimulation from your husband’s penis during sex, don’t you think He would have placed it inside your vagina? Reach down there and take charge of your pleasure!

An essential tip for the guys: Your wife’s clitoris is VERY sensitive. It’s so sensitive that too much stimulation can make it feel so good it hurts or tickles, and that’s not the type of stimulation she wants. Here’s a technique to ensure she receives the right kind of stimulation when you’re manually stimulating her clitoris.

It’s very simple – FEEL her instead of rubbing her. A man enjoys the firm rubbing of his penis during foreplay or intercourse, but a woman needs a much softer touch. So, instead of trying to rub an orgasm out of her with firm, vigorous strokes that could start a fire, feel her.

Here’s the difference between rubbing and feeling. Ruth from Awaken Love explains the difference like this. Place a drop of lube on your wrist and rub it. Most men will simply rub back and forth with focused vigor. Now, stop and feel your wrist. Their movement changes to a slow, sensual, thoughtful feeling of your wrist as your mind maps the terrain and veins beneath the surface of your skin. This is the type of touch your wife needs.

Wives, don’t be afraid to take your husband’s hand and guide his strokes to show him how you want to be touched. Communication is essential if you want him to make you feel good.

Sex Tip: Apply a drop or two of scream cream to her clitoris before manually stimulating it or making love. It will increase blood flow and make it more sensitive to stimulation.

Great Positions With Access for Manual Clitoral Stimulation

An illustration of the Dragonfly Sex Position. This picture demonstrates how Dragonfly is a must-try, comfortable, kneeling sex position that provides superb access for manual clitoral stimulation.
Dragonfly (Must-try!)

An illustration of the Standing Missionary Sex Position. This sex picture demonstrates how Standing Missionary is a comfortable, edge-of-the-bed sex position with breast access and a great view.
Standing Missionary

An illustration of the Doggy Style sex position. This picture demonstrates how Doggy Style, also known as "From Behind," or "Stallion Style" is a rear-entry sex position with great g-spot stimulation and deep penetration.
Doggy Style

Vibrating Marital Aids

Many women need a lot of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Age, medication, hormones, the day of her cycle, and several other factors can make it difficult for a woman to reach orgasm without help from a vibrator. Some wives use vibrators to ensure that they reach orgasm and reach it fast, or they just want to spice things up a little. Whatever reason you choose to incorporate a vibrator during sex, here are some great tips for incorporating a vibrator into your marriage bed.

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Screaming O Vibrating Ring
Screaming O Vibrating Ring

Screaming O Vibrating Ring

The Screaming O Vibrating Ring firmly but comfortably wraps around the base of your husband’s penis with the vibrator positioned up towards his stomach so its powerful vibrator can stimulate your clitoris during sexual intercourse. The ring’s snug fit comfortably increases his firmness and girth by trapping more blood inside his penis.

Vibrating rings work exceptionally well with missionary-style sex positions and the Cowgirl sex pose.

Magic Wand Original Massager
Magic Wand Original Massager

Magic Wand Original Body Massager

The Magic Wand is an iconic vibrator that’s been around for a very long time. It has a vibrating head that provides some of the most powerful stimulation possible when pressed against your clitoris.

This marital aid can be used to stimulate your clitoris during foreplay or sex. It’s pretty loud, so if you have kids in the house or need to keep things really quiet, I’d avoid this one.

Ultra Bullet Vibrator
Ultra Bullet Vibrator

Ultra Bullet Vibrator

The Ultra Bullet Vibrator is small and powerful and great for pressing against your clitoris in tight situations.

This sex toy is very quiet and powerful, so there’s no need to worry about the kids hearing. Now, if we could only silence the moans. 😉

We-Vibe Touch Clitoris Cuddler Vibrator
We-Vibe Touch Clitoris Cuddler Vibrator

We-Vibe Touch Clitoris Cuddler Vibrator

The We-Vibe Touch Vibrator cups your clitoris with deep, rumbly vibrations.

This type of marital aid is great during man-on-top sex positions.

Satisfyer Pro 2 Focused Clitoral Stimulator
Satisfyer Pro 2 Focused Clitoral Stimulator

Satisfyer Pro 2 Focused Clitoral Stimulator

Engulf your clitoris with gentle suction and orgasm-inducing pulses of pressure from the Satisfyer Pro 2 Focused Clitoral Stimulator.

This is the most powerful type of clitoral stimulation possible from a sex toy.

Fukuoku 12K Finger Vibrator
Fukuoku 12K Finger Vibrator

Fukuoku 12K Finger Vibrator

The Fukuoku 12K Finger Vibrator conveniently fits on the tip of your finger so you can stimulate your clitoris during sexual intercourse.

Common Questions About Vibrators

Do vibrators desensitize you? No. You might experience temporary numbness right after use, but it goes away in a short time and is not permanent.

What if I like the feel of a vibrator more than my husband? The stimulation of a vibrator feels really good, but I’ve never heard of a woman that enjoys it more than her husband’s touch or penis. It’s just not the same.

Can I become addicted to a vibrator? No, but I’d be careful not to get lazy and rush to pick up a vibrator instead of your husband’s touch.

I pray that these sex tips help you and your spouse have more pleasure and intimacy with each other. If you have any tips for stimulating the clitoris during sex, please leave them in the comments below. Don’t be shy. 😉

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Published On: June 21, 2019 | Last Update: September 22, 2022

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  1. Nicola says

    September 15, 2021 at 9:03 am

    Love missionary position I always queff in this position have to have my legs open wide love the sound when it goes in and out

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