Sex toys are wonderful marital aids Christian couples can use to add intimacy and adventure to foreplay and sexual intercourse.
We often reference specific types of vibrators and marital aids on our sex positions and want to explain in detail how they can be used to add intimacy to your marriage bed without cheapening sex.
Can Christians Use Sex Toys?
Sex toy usage has been taboo for Christians for a long time because they are associated with masturbation and sold in stores filled with nudity, porn and promote activities that do not align with Christian values.
Things have changed, and there is a store where Christians can purchase sex toys without being exposed to nudity, porn, and other filth secular sex toy shops have.
We agree that masturbation is wrong, and using a sex toy by yourself to get off is wrong. We also think that having sex so that you can use a marital aid is also wrong. The sex toy should enhance sex, not be the reason for sex.
Here’s one last point we’d like to make. Nobody thinks twice about using personal lubricants during intercourse. Some couples use personal lubricants because they need them to have sex, and others use them to enhance the feeling of sex.
So, what’s different with using a vibrator? Lubes and vibrators are both unnatural. Lube may be needed for intercourse, and a vibrator may be necessary for orgasm. Lube can enhance the feeling of intercourse just like a vibrator can. Think about that.
Please scroll down, and check out the different types of marital aids we recommend. Every kind of marital aid includes suggestions on how you can use them to enhance lovemaking.
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Bullet Vibrators
Used During: Foreplay, Intercourse
Ideal for Stimulating: Clitoris, Testicles, Perineum, Nipples
Bullet vibrators fit in the palm of your hand, but don’t let their size mislead you. They pack intense stimulation into a small package and are great for external stimulation during foreplay and intercourse. Here are some great ways you can use a bullet vibrator to increase intimacy in your marriage bed.
Clitoral Stimulation: The wife or her husband presses the bullet vibrator against her clitoris during foreplay or sex. These marital aids are small enough for the woman to stimulate her clitoris during sex positions such as Super 8, Doggy Style, or the AMAZING Dragonfly sex position.
Recommended Reading: How to Increase Clitoral Stimulation During Sex
Testicle Stimulation: Cup a bullet massager in your hand and then cup your husband’s testicles with it while giving him a blowjob or handjob.
Perineum Stimulation: Press a vibrating bullet firmly against the skin between your husband’s testicles and anus to stimulate his prostate externally while giving him a handjob or fellatio.
Nipple Stimulation: Gently glide a bullet vibrator in a circular motion around the outside of your wife’s breast. Move in closer to her nipple every revolution you make with the vibrator until you’re directly stimulating her nipples.
Recommended Reading: Benefits of Breast Stimulation During Foreplay & Sex
Recommended Bullet Vibrators
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Vibrating Rings
Used During: Foreplay, Intercourse
Ideal for Stimulating: Clitoris, Testicles
Vibrating rings firmly but comfortably fit around the base of the husband’s penis. The ring slows blood from leaving his penis, which can help create a firmer erection with more girth. The ring’s vibrator sends vibrations through the shaft of his penis and stimulates her clitoris directly when he’s entirely inside during intercourse. Here are the most popular ways couples use vibrating penis rings during lovemaking.
Clitoral Stimulation: Wear a vibrating ring while making love in a sex position that provides a lot of contact between the ring’s vibrator and clitoris such as Cowgirl or Hula Bula.
Testicle Stimulation: Turn the ring’s massager down so that its vibrator is pressing against his testicles during sex.
Use It like a Bullet: A ring’s vibrator is essentially a tiny bullet vibrator, so you can use it just like you would use a bullet vibrator.
Recommended Vibrating Rings
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G-Spot Vibrators
Used During: Foreplay, Intercourse
Ideal for Stimulating: G-Spot, Clitoris
G-Spot vibrators have a curved shaft and usually have a broad tip that contains the motor. This design is excellent for reaching her g-spot and directly stimulating it. The curved design is also perfect for reaching her clitoris during sex. Here are some ways couples use g-spot vibrators during foreplay and intercourse.
Cunnilingus: Use a vibrating g-spot marital aid to stimulate her g-spot while giving her cunnilingus. It’s not as difficult as it seems, and the simultaneous clitoral and g-spot stimulation will give her a body-shaking blended orgasm!
Intercourse: She uses a g-spot massager to stimulate her clitoris while making love to her husband in a sex position that allows manual clitoral stimulation such as Super 8 or Spoon.
Recommended Reading: How to Increase G-Spot Stimulation During Sex
Recommended G-Spot Vibrators
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Traditional-Style Vibrators
Used During: Foreplay, Intercourse
Ideal for Stimulating: Clitoris, Vagina, Perineum
Traditional-Style vibrators have a simple, cylindrical shape that’s been around for ages. They’re useful for stimulating her clitoris, vulva, and vagina during foreplay.
Clitoral Stimulation: Press the shaft or tip of the massager against her clitoris.
Vulva Stimulation: Press the shaft lengthwise against her vulva and roll it back and forth to stimulate the entire region.
Vaginal Stimulation: Insert the marital aid into her vagina and stimulate all of it.
Recommended Traditional-Style Vibrators
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Pressure Wave Clitoral Stimulators
Used During: Foreplay, Intercourse
Ideal for Stimulating: Clitoris
Pressure Wave stimulators cup her clitoris and engulf it with gentle suction and rapidly changing pressure or sonic waves. The strong, indirect stimulation from these marital aids is some of the most powerful clitoral stimulation possible.
Difficulty Reaching Orgasm: If you’re a woman who has trouble reaching orgasm, or it takes you a long time to climax, and you want to speed things up from time to time, this marital aid is for you! Pressure wave stimulators are known for quickly bringing almost any woman to orgasm every time they’re used.
Clitoral Stimulation: They can be used during foreplay, and most of them are small enough to be used for additional clitoral stimulation during sex in positions such as Dragonfly, Standing Missionary, and Lazy Cowgirl.
Recommended Pressure Wave Clitoral Stimulators
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Nipple Pinchers & Suckers
Used During: Foreplay, Intercourse
Ideal for Stimulating: Nipples
Nipple and breast stimulation cause a woman’s body to release the oxytocin hormone. Oxytocin is known as the “love hormone” because it makes you feel a strong sense of bonding and cuddly. It’s also responsible for helping a woman orgasm.
Nipple pinchers and suckers provide hands-free nipple and breast stimulation and are used during foreplay or sexual intercourse.
Nipple Pinchers: Attach each end of the nipple clamps to your nipples with just enough squeeze to hold on without easily falling off. Each clamp is adjustable, so its grip strength can be adjusted to your liking. The nipple pinchers’ chain will rub over your breasts when they bounce and move around during foreplay and sex and provide hands-free stimulation.
Nipple Suckers: Lick or spread a little lube on the rim of each nipple sucker. Squeeze the bulb a little, press it against your nipple, and release to apply the suction. The suction will draw blood into and around your nipples and make them more sensitive. Couples use these during foreplay.
Recommended Reading: Benefits of Breast Stimulation During Foreplay & Sex
Recommended Nipple Pinchers & Suckers
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Scream Creams
Used During: Foreplay, Intercourse
Ideal for Stimulating: Clitoris, Nipples
One or two drops of libido-enhancing arousal gel are all you need to increase blood flow and add tingling sensations to your clitoris or nipples during foreplay or intercourse.
Scream creams increase blood flow to the region it’s applied to and creates a warm, buzzing feeling that awakens your nerve endings and amplifies stimulation. Here are some great ways to use sexual stimulation gel.
Clitoral Stimulation: Apply a drop or two of scream cream to the clitoris a few minutes before manual stimulation from fingers or having sex. The increased blood flow and sensitivity will enhance sensations and hopefully lead to easier, better orgasms.
Nipple Stimulation: Nipple and breast stimulation during foreplay or intercourse can do wonders for increasing your sexual satisfaction. Apply a drop or two to each nipple and watch as they point with joy from the extra blood flow and buzzing sensation.
Recommended Reading: How to Increase Clitoral Stimulation During Sex
Recommended Scream Creams
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andrew-bedroom says
If a couple starts using a vibrator, then it seems the real disadvantage would be that sex would not be as enjoyable without it, (e.g. when the opportunity arises in the car without planning ahead)?
I’d agree with the moral aspect, that it isn’t a problem, but would be afraid of becoming dependent on such aids.
Jerry says
We included sex toys as a way of changing up from the normal ways of having sex with our penis, vagina, mouth, breasts and hands. Your body will always naturally crave traditional penis in vagina sex. But to change things up occasionally… Wow! A vibrator or male sleeve, really makes your body feel extreme pleasure that may not have been possible without it! Especially for a woman that may have never actually had an orgasm from “sex”, and just has never said anything. Do her a favor and get a vibrator and let her try it out! She may do and say things that you have never thought you would hear! But in the end, she will always come back to want your body, thats just the way she is made.
HusbandSojourner says
I can see your concern. However, vibrators serve couples in different ways. While you can’t use it every time it is a great tool to have to possibly increase pleasure. For example, vibrator rings have really worked well for us since by wife has a lot of sexual abuse trauma and manual stimulation can unintentionally bring up those memories. While we are not dependent on them to have a good time, it’s a great tool for us to utilize to bring her to orgasm without the possibility of triggering traumatic thoughts.
CFSP says
Good to know!
Scott says
We have used and very much enjoyed variety of toys for a while now and agree that no matter what is used, it is always each other that we desire the most. What God made just can’t be beat.
Diane says
After nearly 40 years of married sex I have never come without help. A vibrator is always required. It’s a tool that brings my husband and I together. Without it, it’s possible we wouldn’t be married today as who wants a one sided sex life? Sure, as a woman there is pleasure in pleasing our man, but, mutual pleasure is stronger and more intimate. My husband was the one to encourage toys because he wanted me to experience what he did. I’m grateful he was patience and persistent and I’m grateful there are tools and this website to guide those newer in the joy of married sex to learn things far sooner than I did.
BTW. We are in our 60s and sex has never been hotter, more orgasmic, more frequent and fun! Kids are grown and the house becomes a playground!
Just sayin